Keep On Keeping On!

Life they say is not a bed of roses, even if it were, roses have thorns.

Life is in phases and men are in sizes. Never compare yourself with anyone no matter what.

Just know that you can't throw in the towel now, you just can't give up no matter the challenge that you are facing currently.

There is always a bright side. Even is there is none, create one for yourself and for others around you or anyone you know who is presently going through challenges.

As I write to you, I also have challenge, there are different issues yet to be sorted out in my life but I chosen not to be deterred.

I told myself this morning that I am tired of crying over issues, I am tired of being dejected because certain things are not working the way I thought they ought to have and then I remind myself of you and all that you go through and are going through.

I want you to quit pitying yourself and crying foul. You just can't give up now. You have to keep on keeping on.

Have you been disappointed? try again. Have your heart been broken? love again. Have you fallen? rise again.

No matter what you go through, no matter how challenging and complicated things may seem, do not give up, keep on keeping on because you are the reason I am here.

Lots of Love,
 ~Oma.

Over And Over Again!

For how long will you continue to hurt him over and over again?

For how long will your partner shed secret tears in frustration over and over again because of the pain you cause.

Love is beautiful, love is kind,  love is divine but over and over again you have defiled love.

The choices we make at every stage of life goes a long way to shape us. The seed you sow today will germinate tomorrow and bear fruit. What type of fruit will yours bear?

Make a conscious effort to be a source of joy, inspiration, and a blessing to your relationship over and over again.

Let your partner look at you and find inner joy. Let your partner steal a glance at you just to be sure that you are real because of the way you have been a blessing over and over again.

I celebrate you.

Lots of Luv,
~Oma

One Thing Is Needful!

"But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part,  which shall not be taken away from her." ~Luke 10:42 [KJV].

"There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it and it will not be taken away from her. " [NLT]

The first translation say ...But one thing is needful. . ., the second says . . . There is only one thing worth being concerned about. . .

 What is that one thing that is needful for you right now? What is that one thing that is worth your being concerned about?

It is time to set your priorities right before it's too late.

That relationship that you are in,  is it needful? Is it worth your being concerned about? Check yourself before you wreck yourself.

Lots of Luv.
~Oma😍

Factually Speaking!

I am tough, I am diplomatic, I am sweet, I am loyal, I am kind but at the same time, I am logical.

Sitting here alone, thinking of trends I have seen and walked through, it becomes imperative to share my opinion on the subject matter.
I live a life filled with new experiences and testimonies and through it all, I have learnt a lot and grown a lot more. I take risks and do the unexpected, above all, I believe in divinity.

Young ladies, there is no way you can get married to a man that you are intellectually higher than, especially, if he has insecurity issues from birth, and expect it to work.

I will like to advice young ladies, if you are a University or a College graduate, don't ever consider marrying a person without a WAEC result. It is always easier and better if the man has a better or higher academic qualification than the woman.

Yes! there are exceptions to every rule, though this is not a rule, I know of some couples it has worked for but take time to find out, you will notice that the woman in question is on the 'passive' side.

If you have an active persona` as a woman, and you have an academic qualification higher than that of the man who has asked for your hand in marriage, Sister, you need to do a re-think. Because, there will come a time when even prayer cannot save the day because you will be reasoning `A`, he will be reasoning `Q` and before you know it, the oil has spilled and there is no way to gather it back again. Think!

 May the Lord God Almighty, through His eternal Spirit, grant us understanding in the things of this Life. Amen!

Lots of Luv
~Oma.

I Am A Woman; HolySpirit Help Me!

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies (Prov. 31:10)

I know that being a woman is a very wonderful place coupled with its attendant responsibility and challenges. Nevertheless, more is expected of us.

Being a woman is not a task you can handle on your own, we need the help of the HolySpirit especially the "Married Woman" because so much more is expected of you.
In other to help your own self, you need to cheerfully and joyfully accept your role as a woman because you are a daughter, a sister, a wife and a mother.
Each of this role is distinct and cumbersome because you never graduate from any of them till eternity.

Being a woman is beautiful, so, do not give up.

Always remember that you are the one that makes the house a home. Whether you like it or not, you are the one that plans for the future of the family, it is in your hands whether the family succeeds or not.
As a woman, do your best especially new mothers, have savings in your child(ren) name. Open a Child Account different from yours and the family joint account and begin saving in it no matter how little, till that child is of age to access the fund, you will be glad you did because your child(ren) shall arise and call you blessed someday because of it.

For the married woman, you need to arise and prayer-cover your family especially your husband. His decisions have to be in tandem with the will of God, His plans and purpose for your union.
YOU HAVE TO STOP EATING FROM BOTH SIDES OF THE MOUTH.
Refuse to be a sit-down look, refuse to allow your husband's friends, P.A or Secretary to determine how your family finance or day to day activity is run.

Being a virtuous woman does not mean that you should be dumb.
For those who have a hard time knowing their husbands' financial calendar or probably you don't even know how much he earns as salary, sincerely, you are in trouble because you both are supposed to plan as a family especially for the sake of the children.

Going forward, go on your knees in prayer, ask the HolySpirit for help.
Nagging your man, cursing him in the private and in the open is a NO, NO. Rather, bless him, speak life and blessings to his being continuously and let this be your prayer always; I Am A Woman, HolySpirit Help Me!

I Love You,
~Oma

My Long Distance Race!

I reminisce with so much fascination my days as an athlete in High School. The whole school team where gathered in anticipation as the race was about to commence. As the whistle blew, everyone set out on track. It was a long distance race.

But suddenly, after the first lap while being in the lead, I stopped, I didn't fall, no one was in my way, I just stopped and walked out of the track. What? How could she? My team members blurted but deep down in me, I knew that I couldn't continue this long distance race.

I was injured inside, no one would see it but I felt the sharp pain over and over again. It was a decision of life or death. I made a choice against popular opinion and expectations, I made a choice and that is why I am alive  today.

At the next competition, I won all the 3-long distance races (800m, 1500m & 3000m), again I took the centre stage and reclaimed the top till I graduated.

No relationship is a 100m or 200m dash or sprint race. Relationships are like long distance races, it requires you to run slower but steady with open stride, water intermittently - communication, it also requires patience and endurance so as to build up. Nevertheless, know how to stay alive cos life is a very long distance race.

I Luv U.
~Oma

As You Lay Your Bed!

Prov 18:21 (NIV)
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Prov 18:21 (NLT)
The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.

Sometime ago as a student in one of the Universities of Technology, I visited a senior friend and as I entered the sitting room, the little daughter came to me  crying and I took her in my arms and tried to console her and I asked her what happened she said "Its Junior that want to share my toy and I refused, Daddy now said see my wonderful head" I laughed so hard because to this child, ''see your wonderful head'' was a punishment  for not being kind to her kid brother. That family made a choice never to use a foul languages in their home and they kept at it no matter the provocation.

Life is a choice and as you lay your bed, so you will lie on it.

A lot is at stake in what we say today. Every word we speak is a seed, you have to be careful with what you say no matter the situation, circumstance or condition.

For by your words you will be condemned and by your words you will be acquitted. Make your mouth a fountain of life not a death drum. Say something to encourage yourself and someone else, speak words that build up and inspire.

Some people are agents of destruction, so called Christians alike, you must stay away from such people. All that such people do is complain and complain and complain. They only see bad about the country, the polity, the people etc.
These set of people are negativity personified. They always see the glass as half empty. If you are part of this bunch please stop, desist from such lifestyle. It is unhealthy.

Those that do know their God, they shall be strong and do exploits. You have a duty to search the scriptures and know what is written concerning you as a believer. Take time out and just read the bible, read it to know. You have to patiently read the bible to know what inheritance you have and then continuously speak and appropriate the written word into your life.

As we go into the weekends, I encourage you to speak words that edify, stop complaining. Complaining about a situation never changes it but you can help yourself by speaking life into your destiny.

The lines are fallen for you in pleasant places, you have a goodly heritage, a thousand shall fall at your side, ten thousand at your right but they will not come near you, and all that are incensed against you shall be put to shame.

As God's people in Goshen had possessions therein and grew and multiplied exceedingly despite the famine in Egypt, you also shall experience same  because God never breaks His covenant nor alter the thing that has gone out of His mouth. Jesus said "What I say to you, I say unto all, Watch." (Mk 13:37) Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us: for it is written, Cursed is every one that hangeth on a tree:That the blessing of Abraham might come on the Gentiles through Jesus Christ; that we might receive the promise of the Spirit through faith.

Brethren, relax, your case is different!
Say ye not, A confederacy, to all them to whom this people shall say, A confederacy; neither fear ye their fear, nor be afraid. God is on your side.

Lots of Love
~Oma






 

You Are Stronger Than The Pain!

It was the morning of 25th January 2013, a bright Friday morning. At about some few minutes to the hour of 8 o'clock, still lazy-ing in bed, my phone rang and a childhood friend was the caller, I was excited 'cos it's been quite a while we chatted, her calls brought smiles to my heart that soon faded. though I was sleepy, I still found my voice to let her know how happy I was hearing from her though my voice was still husky. She told me she had called to sympathize with me on what happened, I burst out laughing and sat on my bed. Nothing happened o, I replied. She said I saw what your brother posted on Facebook yesterday night. What did he post biko? I queried and the line went dead. I redialled the number two more times but she didn't pick up. I began to wonder what it might be that my brother had posted, instantly I became frantic, I called my friend again and she picked. I went on to tell her how I haven't been online for days and begged her to tell me what was posted, she said she was going to call me back and the line went dead again, ha! I started to sweat in my both palms and became nervous. Finally I got data, lo and behold on my brother's Facebook wall was this message "Just got a shocking newz.. That my beloved dad has just given up the ghost... Plzzz join me in prayers .....thanks for being my friends"
Ha! is this boy crazy? how could he joke with such a thing? many thoughts ran through my head, I remember calling my Dad's phone the previous day and my younger sister took the call and said he was at the farm behind the house supervising those clearing the bushes not knowing it was going to be his last but that my Mum was in the kitchen. I spoke with Mum who promised to inform him that I called, unlike him, he never called back. At about 8pm, I started calling the line again but no one picked then I concluded they have all retired for the night hoping that when he sees my call in the morning, he will return the call as his manner was but he never did till date. All I just wanted to tell him was the love of God for him, I wanted to remind him of God's faithfulness and find out how he was faring as usual. Immediately, I started dialling his phone, over and over again but no one picked. I couldn't believe what I was seeing, how could my brother post such on Facebook without informing any of his younger sibling. Finally my younger Sister picked the call and I asked her what is happening, she said it's Daddy o, he has died. Huh? my phone dropped. I cried, I screamed, my heart quacked, I was torn, I was broken to the point that my heart ached physically as though I was going to have a heart attack, I felt my world crumble before me, the tears flowed uncontrollably I became defenceless and empty. I became angry at God, how can he take my Dad without telling me? but I heard a question in my heart, "Do I need to take permission from you before I do anything with my creature? You are stronger than this pain."

Fast forward to this day, it is 3 years already. [Continue to rest in peace Chief C.C. Okereh, (omekagu 1 on Abuja)]

Truth be told, the pain never goes away. you only outgrow it. You may be out there hurting, having lost a loved one, the truth is, I can never understand or know how you feel, no one can understand your hurt or pain but believe me, You Are Stronger Than that Pain! Let the tears flow freely but keep saying to yourself, "I Am Stronger Than This Pain" because truly, you are the only one stronger than the pain, the sadness, the agony, the aching, the hurt, the brokenness, the loneliness or despair you feel right now.
You Are Stronger Than The Pain!

Action Point:
If you still have a Dad, show him some love today!

Lots of Love
Oma.

Being grateful is magical!

Life is a blessing. But it presents different strokes to different folks, no matter how we look at it,

Being grateful is magical!

*Gratitude connotes thanks and appreciation

*It is the quality of being thankful and showing it

*It is the appreciation and recognition of the quality, value, significance or magnitude of people and
things

*It is an act of kindness

Showing gratitude is one of the simplest yet most powerful things humans can do for each other.

Being grateful and expressing it changes everything.

A person who feels appreciated will always do more than what is expected.

A wise man once said
"As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words but to live by them".

Being grateful and not expressing it by words of mouth especially is like wrapping a gift and not giving it.

"Thank you" expresses extreme gratitude, humility, understanding, respect, regard and appreciation.

Cultivate a lifestyle of gratitude and live it.

Thankful people are the most happy, they sleep better, have strengthened immune system and no depression.

Be thankful to your spouse, be thankful to your lover, be thankful to your children, be thankful to your parents, be thankful to your Pastors and Imams, be thankful to your friends and most of all, let them know that you appreciate having them in your life.

A simple "Thank you" to that domestic servant, that taxi driver, that bike rider, that market woman, that ware seller, that Cleaner in your office, that Nanny, that Driver who chauffeur you and your family, that Secretary, that P.A., etc. It doesn't matter how much you pay them, a simple "Thank you" does a lot of magic.

It doesn't have to be perfect, just be grateful.

Being grateful is magical!

Action Point:
Let the gratitude challenge begin


Lots of Love
Oma.