Factually Speaking!

I am tough, I am diplomatic, I am sweet, I am loyal, I am kind but at the same time, I am logical.

Sitting here alone, thinking of trends I have seen and walked through, it becomes imperative to share my opinion on the subject matter.
I live a life filled with new experiences and testimonies and through it all, I have learnt a lot and grown a lot more. I take risks and do the unexpected, above all, I believe in divinity.

Young ladies, there is no way you can get married to a man that you are intellectually higher than, especially, if he has insecurity issues from birth, and expect it to work.

I will like to advice young ladies, if you are a University or a College graduate, don't ever consider marrying a person without a WAEC result. It is always easier and better if the man has a better or higher academic qualification than the woman.

Yes! there are exceptions to every rule, though this is not a rule, I know of some couples it has worked for but take time to find out, you will notice that the woman in question is on the 'passive' side.

If you have an active persona` as a woman, and you have an academic qualification higher than that of the man who has asked for your hand in marriage, Sister, you need to do a re-think. Because, there will come a time when even prayer cannot save the day because you will be reasoning `A`, he will be reasoning `Q` and before you know it, the oil has spilled and there is no way to gather it back again. Think!

 May the Lord God Almighty, through His eternal Spirit, grant us understanding in the things of this Life. Amen!

Lots of Luv
~Oma.

I Am A Woman; HolySpirit Help Me!

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies (Prov. 31:10)

I know that being a woman is a very wonderful place coupled with its attendant responsibility and challenges. Nevertheless, more is expected of us.

Being a woman is not a task you can handle on your own, we need the help of the HolySpirit especially the "Married Woman" because so much more is expected of you.
In other to help your own self, you need to cheerfully and joyfully accept your role as a woman because you are a daughter, a sister, a wife and a mother.
Each of this role is distinct and cumbersome because you never graduate from any of them till eternity.

Being a woman is beautiful, so, do not give up.

Always remember that you are the one that makes the house a home. Whether you like it or not, you are the one that plans for the future of the family, it is in your hands whether the family succeeds or not.
As a woman, do your best especially new mothers, have savings in your child(ren) name. Open a Child Account different from yours and the family joint account and begin saving in it no matter how little, till that child is of age to access the fund, you will be glad you did because your child(ren) shall arise and call you blessed someday because of it.

For the married woman, you need to arise and prayer-cover your family especially your husband. His decisions have to be in tandem with the will of God, His plans and purpose for your union.
YOU HAVE TO STOP EATING FROM BOTH SIDES OF THE MOUTH.
Refuse to be a sit-down look, refuse to allow your husband's friends, P.A or Secretary to determine how your family finance or day to day activity is run.

Being a virtuous woman does not mean that you should be dumb.
For those who have a hard time knowing their husbands' financial calendar or probably you don't even know how much he earns as salary, sincerely, you are in trouble because you both are supposed to plan as a family especially for the sake of the children.

Going forward, go on your knees in prayer, ask the HolySpirit for help.
Nagging your man, cursing him in the private and in the open is a NO, NO. Rather, bless him, speak life and blessings to his being continuously and let this be your prayer always; I Am A Woman, HolySpirit Help Me!

I Love You,
~Oma

After All The No Nonsense!

In the discharge of one of my duties today, as I approached the waiting room, I saw a sad old man, he needed help in order to fill a particular form so as to claim some benefits accrued to him as a result of his service to the fatherland.

I went and sat down in one of the seats available. I opened my bag to take out one of the books I was reading so as to continue from where I stopped, as I looked up, this sad old man was standing beside me and almost pleading with me to allow him seat, I was shocked and I shifted for him with a smile as I urged him to seat beside me.

He handed his form to me, it was strange though but I took it from him and read through it, after which I asked him to go and submit, he said to me, ''
my daughter, I can't", on further enquiry I found out that he needed One document, which wasn't compulsory, for his submission to be accepted but the man-in-charge had insisted he brings it and the document is far away in the village, the old man was tired.

Some twenty years ago, this same old man prevented the man-in-charge today from entering the university of his choice just because during clearance, he didn't come with the original of his certificate of origin, the old man today used to be known as "Mr No Nonesense", today, the table has turned, Mr No nonsense is now old and dependent .

Men and Brethren, after all the "No Nonsense", remember there is a 'tomorrow' when you will need someone's help.

In whatever position that you find yourself today, try as much as you can to ease people's burden, make life as stress free as possible with your position because after all the no nonsense, you never know where we will need one another.

Lots of Love,
~Oma.

Do Me A Favour!

"Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Prov. 31:29 (ESV)

One day I sat down in tears on the staircase of Workshop II building in FUTO, it was at about 8pm, I remember the time because we had just rounded up the weekly meeting for NIFES' Rhema Theatre, the drama group of the fellowship, having  been serving God and not willing to compromise whatsoever.

Throughout that day, I hadn't eaten any form of food and the only water I was privileged to drink was from the hostel tap. I was hoping that a 'thus says the Lord' will come my way but to no avail.
After the meeting that night, I waited till everyone had left the venue before I could leave because I was so hungry that I couldn't walk well, I had to count my steps.

As everyone left, hot tears flooded my face, it dawned on me how alone I was at that moment, I was too shy to ask for any form of help.
Counting my steps toward the staircase, I froze, I had no strength to continue nor carry on, I sat there, at the stairs and wept to my fill, when I finished, I wiped my face, stood up, dusted my butt, mustered more courage and walked back to the hostel and slept in that hunger.

The next day, Friday morning, while going to get water, I noticed that the Salon downstairs hostel C had a number of waiting clients, I approached the stylist and told the woman I will like to assist her in making hair for free, she obliged me. I washed some hairs, retouched, and plaited for weavons and at about 11:43am, she bought us food, after eating, I had to leave for my afternoon lectures.

But look at me today!

It doesn't matter what you are going through, it doesn't matter how many blows life has dealt you, it doesn't matter how many times your heart has been broken, it doesn't matter how many times you have been disappointed, cheated on, lied upon or even abused, it doesn't matter if the world has given you a thousand and one reason to cry in bitter sorrow. After all the tears and pain, do me a favour, don't die, don't quit, don't give up, there is still more that you can be. Keep on keeping on.

Lots of Love,
~Oma

Make the Choice!

Most times I write from the wealth of experience I have acquired through the years of going through the wilderness called 'life', where the grasses have cut deep into my feet at some point and at others, I have cut through the grasses of life with my feet especially when I made a choice to be a blessing to everyone that comes my way even when the recipient did not deserve it from my human point of view, it is a choice I made and still make, God helping me.

Life itself is full of challenges, rumours, stories and realities of war, famine, breakdown of law and order, agitation, etc but in the midst of all these, what choice have you made?

Life is a choice, it is as you see it. You may choose to see the glass as half empty or half full but my advice is this, be positive, keep hope alive, God's word never fails, the lines will fall in for you in pleasant places. How? you ask!

And I ask you, what do you see about yourself? the truth is, until you see something, nothing will be confirmed in your life.

There is no super-human anywhere. Everyone you see that you term successful, has made one hard decision, one hard choice or another at some point in their lives.

Let your own choice be to 'live'. please stay alive, choose never to give up, refuse to die, keep on keeping on, if you have to crawl, walk, run or fly, just keep moving forward positively, be a blessing to as many as you can.
Even your smile could be the blessing someone requires.

May the Lord give us understanding.

Lots of Love,
~Oma.

My Long Distance Race!

I reminisce with so much fascination my days as an athlete in High School. The whole school team where gathered in anticipation as the race was about to commence. As the whistle blew, everyone set out on track. It was a long distance race.

But suddenly, after the first lap while being in the lead, I stopped, I didn't fall, no one was in my way, I just stopped and walked out of the track. What? How could she? My team members blurted but deep down in me, I knew that I couldn't continue this long distance race.

I was injured inside, no one would see it but I felt the sharp pain over and over again. It was a decision of life or death. I made a choice against popular opinion and expectations, I made a choice and that is why I am alive  today.

At the next competition, I won all the 3-long distance races (800m, 1500m & 3000m), again I took the centre stage and reclaimed the top till I graduated.

No relationship is a 100m or 200m dash or sprint race. Relationships are like long distance races, it requires you to run slower but steady with open stride, water intermittently - communication, it also requires patience and endurance so as to build up. Nevertheless, know how to stay alive cos life is a very long distance race.

I Luv U.
~Oma

As You Lay Your Bed!

Prov 18:21 (NIV)
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Prov 18:21 (NLT)
The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.

Sometime ago as a student in one of the Universities of Technology, I visited a senior friend and as I entered the sitting room, the little daughter came to me  crying and I took her in my arms and tried to console her and I asked her what happened she said "Its Junior that want to share my toy and I refused, Daddy now said see my wonderful head" I laughed so hard because to this child, ''see your wonderful head'' was a punishment  for not being kind to her kid brother. That family made a choice never to use a foul languages in their home and they kept at it no matter the provocation.

Life is a choice and as you lay your bed, so you will lie on it.

A lot is at stake in what we say today. Every word we speak is a seed, you have to be careful with what you say no matter the situation, circumstance or condition.

For by your words you will be condemned and by your words you will be acquitted. Make your mouth a fountain of life not a death drum. Say something to encourage yourself and someone else, speak words that build up and inspire.

Some people are agents of destruction, so called Christians alike, you must stay away from such people. All that such people do is complain and complain and complain. They only see bad about the country, the polity, the people etc.
These set of people are negativity personified. They always see the glass as half empty. If you are part of this bunch please stop, desist from such lifestyle. It is unhealthy.

Those that do know their God, they shall be strong and do exploits. You have a duty to search the scriptures and know what is written concerning you as a believer. Take time out and just read the bible, read it to know. You have to patiently read the bible to know what inheritance you have and then continuously speak and appropriate the written word into your life.

As we go into the weekends, I encourage you to speak words that edify, stop complaining. Complaining about a situation never changes it but you can help yourself by speaking life into your destiny.

The lines are fallen for you in pleasant places, you have a goodly heritage, a thousand shall fall at your side, ten thousand at your right but they will not come near you, and all that are incensed against you shall be put to shame.

As God's people in Goshen had possessions therein and grew and multiplied exceedingly despite the famine in Egypt, you also shall experience same  because God never breaks His covenant nor alter the thing that has gone out of His mouth. Jesus said "What I say to you, I say unto all, Watch." (Mk 13:37) Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us: for it is written, Cursed is every one that hangeth on a tree:That the blessing of Abraham might come on the Gentiles through Jesus Christ; that we might receive the promise of the Spirit through faith.

Brethren, relax, your case is different!
Say ye not, A confederacy, to all them to whom this people shall say, A confederacy; neither fear ye their fear, nor be afraid. God is on your side.

Lots of Love
~Oma