What Your Relationship Really Deserves.

There are many needs of a relationship as it relates to the well-being and sanity of both partners.

Once you accept this truth,  you will stop struggling and rather you will work out ways to give your relationship what it truly deserve rather than what it wants.

What does your relationship deserve?

Your Relationship Deserves

I May Never Understand!

When I hear certain things that go on around here, I just realise that I may never understand what you are going through.
God has a reason for allowing things to happen, we may never understand his wisdom but we simply have to trust His will.

I am here today because

What Alibaba Taught Me On My Birthday!

#Repost from @alibabagcfr

Some people will want to make you look bad so that they will not be alone in their misery. This is why you have people who jump into any conversation to run somebody down because they can not stand to see anyone look good.

Do you remember the story of the 2 mother's and King Solomon? That is exactly what is at play. Because their banga no ripe... everybody must chop white soup. Kilode?!!!!!!!!!!!! Because your relationship ended badly doesn't mean every opportunity you get is to run other men or women down.

Every human being, and by that l mean man or woman, has different tolerance level. Some first wives can accommodate 2nd, 3rd and 4th wife. Some can be the 3rd or 4th wife sef. That is their cup of tea. Some women can take it when their husbands have girlfriends. It's ok. As long as he is discrete and doesn't rub it in their face. Some other ladies can not stand the fact that their man even took a picture with another woman.

One lady sent me a DM the other day asking

There Is No Remedy? You Lie!

When your heart is broken, when there is nothing and one to look up to, when the family line is strained, there is no remedy.

When you try so much not to hurt, and your heart quake because all you see is the pain and then you think there is no remedy?  You lie.

Even in that pain,

When It Becomes Expensive!

Family is the bedrock of sustainability in the world. The importance of family cannot be overemphasized.
The cheapest catalyst that speeds up positive reaction in a family is 'Unity'.

Unity is cheap but can also be expensive when not well harnessed in the family.

The woman has a huge role to play when it comes to harnessing or fostering Unity in the home.

In my opinion, the unity between the father and mother lies in the hands of the man while the unity between the children and the parents lies in the hands of the woman (Mother).

Mothers, do your best to foster unity amongst your children. Let there be oneness.
Teach your children the essence and importance of being one even the Bible say ". . . if your eye be single, your whole body will be full of light" meaning that light prevails when there is oneness, that is unity.

Your children must learn to look out for each other in love and also respect each other no matter what. The blessings far out way the little painless sacrifice of our time to speak about this.

When it becomes expensive, you will cry and no one will listen. But that won't be any of our portion in Jesus name Amen.

Mother, instill in your children to be a team and collaborate.
Stop instilling division.

A family doesn't need to be perfect it just needs to be united because there is more power in unity than in division.

Love rules
~Oma

Family Head Vs Family Leader

In a home, especially here in Africa, the man (Father)  is the head of the home and the woman (Mother) is the leader of the family. But most times it is not always so.
On this platform, I want to speak to the leader of the home, the woman (mother).

A family head is statutory as ordained by divinity, by law and by marriage.
The mother, as the leader of the family is the coordinator. You are the one to organize the children and other family members living in your home.

As the leader of the family, you are to be active, appear firm but full of love, never take sides and never allow any form of disrespect withing the family rank no matter the situation.

In a situation where the children grow into adulthood, be sensitive to know when you are no longer in charge and with wisdom,  identify amongst your children the one with a good leadership and organizing skills and encourage him/her to organise the rest of the siblings.

You came start with simple things like the birthday of a family member or your anniversary, then,  sit back and watch the outcome. With this, you can access how well they can organize themselves in you absence or incapacity because you won't always be available or active.

It is advisable to start now and start early.

May the blessings of this season locate your home. Amen.

Lots if Luv.
~Oma

I Couldn't Be Born Again!

. . .Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.

I cried that day in the church when the pastor expantiated on the above verse.
Those who wanted to be born again stood up but I didn't, I just kept on weeping silently out of hopelessness.

My understanding then was that I had to enter again into my mother's womb to be born again so those who stood up were those whose mothers will agree to born again. Based on certain logistics I knew I could never go to my mother to be born again but I made a resolve.

While cooking that Sunday afternoon I stylishly told my mum what the Pastor has said and she hissed it off. I knew I never stood the chance after all.
But the urgency of the message kept burning within me, I didn't want to go to hell but then I resolved to tell as many people as I could to be born again.

I cornered my younger sister whom I saw then as my mum's favourite and told her how she needs to be born again so as not to go to hell fire. I convinced her to ask my mum to born her again.

With children my age, I kept spreading the news of how they have to meet their mothers to born them again so as to avoid the perils of hell fire. Parents began to get worried and soon reported me to my parents who warned me against spreading fear into the neighborhood children.

Today we celebrate Jesus Christ the risen king . Because he rose that is why we have hope of a fruitful life here on earth and an eternity hereafter.

May the blessedness of His resurrection be to us all. Amen.

With Luv.
~Oma