I May Never Understand!

When I hear certain things that go on around here, I just realise that I may never understand what you are going through.
God has a reason for allowing things to happen, we may never understand his wisdom but we simply have to trust His will.

I am here today because

What Alibaba Taught Me On My Birthday!

#Repost from @alibabagcfr

Some people will want to make you look bad so that they will not be alone in their misery. This is why you have people who jump into any conversation to run somebody down because they can not stand to see anyone look good.

Do you remember the story of the 2 mother's and King Solomon? That is exactly what is at play. Because their banga no ripe... everybody must chop white soup. Kilode?!!!!!!!!!!!! Because your relationship ended badly doesn't mean every opportunity you get is to run other men or women down.

Every human being, and by that l mean man or woman, has different tolerance level. Some first wives can accommodate 2nd, 3rd and 4th wife. Some can be the 3rd or 4th wife sef. That is their cup of tea. Some women can take it when their husbands have girlfriends. It's ok. As long as he is discrete and doesn't rub it in their face. Some other ladies can not stand the fact that their man even took a picture with another woman.

One lady sent me a DM the other day asking

There Is No Remedy? You Lie!

When your heart is broken, when there is nothing and one to look up to, when the family line is strained, there is no remedy.

When you try so much not to hurt, and your heart quake because all you see is the pain and then you think there is no remedy?  You lie.

Even in that pain,

When It Becomes Expensive!

Family is the bedrock of sustainability in the world. The importance of family cannot be overemphasized.
The cheapest catalyst that speeds up positive reaction in a family is 'Unity'.

Unity is cheap but can also be expensive when not well harnessed in the family.

The woman has a huge role to play when it comes to harnessing or fostering Unity in the home.

In my opinion, the unity between the father and mother lies in the hands of the man while the unity between the children and the parents lies in the hands of the woman (Mother).

Mothers, do your best to foster unity amongst your children. Let there be oneness.
Teach your children the essence and importance of being one even the Bible say ". . . if your eye be single, your whole body will be full of light" meaning that light prevails when there is oneness, that is unity.

Your children must learn to look out for each other in love and also respect each other no matter what. The blessings far out way the little painless sacrifice of our time to speak about this.

When it becomes expensive, you will cry and no one will listen. But that won't be any of our portion in Jesus name Amen.

Mother, instill in your children to be a team and collaborate.
Stop instilling division.

A family doesn't need to be perfect it just needs to be united because there is more power in unity than in division.

Love rules
~Oma

Family Head Vs Family Leader

In a home, especially here in Africa, the man (Father)  is the head of the home and the woman (Mother) is the leader of the family. But most times it is not always so.
On this platform, I want to speak to the leader of the home, the woman (mother).

A family head is statutory as ordained by divinity, by law and by marriage.
The mother, as the leader of the family is the coordinator. You are the one to organize the children and other family members living in your home.

As the leader of the family, you are to be active, appear firm but full of love, never take sides and never allow any form of disrespect withing the family rank no matter the situation.

In a situation where the children grow into adulthood, be sensitive to know when you are no longer in charge and with wisdom,  identify amongst your children the one with a good leadership and organizing skills and encourage him/her to organise the rest of the siblings.

You came start with simple things like the birthday of a family member or your anniversary, then,  sit back and watch the outcome. With this, you can access how well they can organize themselves in you absence or incapacity because you won't always be available or active.

It is advisable to start now and start early.

May the blessings of this season locate your home. Amen.

Lots if Luv.
~Oma

I Couldn't Be Born Again!

. . .Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.

I cried that day in the church when the pastor expantiated on the above verse.
Those who wanted to be born again stood up but I didn't, I just kept on weeping silently out of hopelessness.

My understanding then was that I had to enter again into my mother's womb to be born again so those who stood up were those whose mothers will agree to born again. Based on certain logistics I knew I could never go to my mother to be born again but I made a resolve.

While cooking that Sunday afternoon I stylishly told my mum what the Pastor has said and she hissed it off. I knew I never stood the chance after all.
But the urgency of the message kept burning within me, I didn't want to go to hell but then I resolved to tell as many people as I could to be born again.

I cornered my younger sister whom I saw then as my mum's favourite and told her how she needs to be born again so as not to go to hell fire. I convinced her to ask my mum to born her again.

With children my age, I kept spreading the news of how they have to meet their mothers to born them again so as to avoid the perils of hell fire. Parents began to get worried and soon reported me to my parents who warned me against spreading fear into the neighborhood children.

Today we celebrate Jesus Christ the risen king . Because he rose that is why we have hope of a fruitful life here on earth and an eternity hereafter.

May the blessedness of His resurrection be to us all. Amen.

With Luv.
~Oma

It's Really Depressing!

When you love him and he doesn't love you back or when he doesn't show any kind of affinity towards you meanwhile in your head,  you have played out romantic scenes of both of you in a skillfully crafted love story. I can relate.

What do you do?

Live! Yes live! Do whatever you have to do to just live and enjoy the moment, just do it.

Take it one moment at a time, one day at a time and craft in your mind a picture or story of how you are a survivor and how you are having a better life without him in it.

And what if you see him everyday and probably work together, lady,
 friend-zone the nigga.

He doesn't pay for your oxygen, neither can he.
Just think of it this way,  if you break down psychologically because of him and thoughts of him,  he wouldn't give a hoot about you.
Just think about that for a day.

Yours truly,
~Oma

It Could Have Been Avoided!

He came down from his vehicle in such a manner that spoke rage and spat out venom from his lips as he tried to make his point.

His girlfriend came down from the vehicle and pleaded with him to let go and let them continue the journey but his masculine ego wouldn't let him being that the other man in the other vehicle that scratched his car also kept raising his voice. 

She managed to literally drag her man back into the car behind the wheel but he wanted to have a last say and before anyone could say what is going on, a punch, a slap, a head, and another slap and then finally a body slumps hitting the tarred road.

The death could have been avoided if only he took control of his anger.

You may not always be right, it's okay. You may not always have the last say, that too is no crime but when your punch does the last say and a a body hits the ground, that becomes a crime.

Be careful so that you won't find yourself behind bars thinking for what could have been avoided.

Check yourself before you wreck yourself.

I Care.
~Oma

That Soweth Discord Among Brethren!

"These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:
A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,
An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running into mischief,
A false witness that speaketh lies, and he THAT SOWETH DISCORD AMONG BRETHREN. " Proverbs 6:16-19.

It is an abomination before God for you to sow seeds of discord among brethren, siblings, in-laws.

Life is a blessing, life is good, especially when love lead.  We should allow our life to be impactful, to be a blessing.

What will you gain by sowing seeds of hatred in a family?

Before you arrived, the family have been cooperating and living with each other in peace and harmony but at your arrival, everything has turned upside down yet you keep fuelling the discord. What have you or will you gain?

It is not late to turn a new leaf. The time is NOW!
Teach them to love, teach them to be a family, teach them to have each others back, teach them the values of family.
It may take time but it will eventually be worth it.

Love is beautiful
~Oma

What Should I Do Being Friend-zoned?

When you are in love with him and he is not having it, leave him be.

Life can be so unfair and cruel. You see this guy, he is fly and all, one thing leads to another and you have fallen so deeply in love with him and he just friend-zoned you, walk away.

Find the courage within you to walk away.
Tell yourself the truth and face the reality of it and walk away with your remaining self worth. Refuse to walk in anyone's shadow.

Stand in front of your mirror and ask yourself what do I really see in me? It is what you see in yourself that will determine how you handle yourself henceforth.
Decide to take it one step at a time daily surviving the hurt.

There is nothing worth taking away your inner peace except you decide to allow it. Life is a choice and I implore you to choose wisely.

Success is the best form of payback.
When he has friend-zoned you for whatever reason, choose to succeed and be resourceful and generate results that will stand the taste of time.

Have you ever been friend-zoned? How did you handle it? Please share with me. I'm looking forward to reading from you.

Lots of Luv.
~Oma

The Ride Of A Life Time!

I was still in college then and we had lecture free week, instead of going home to my parents, I decided to visit my boyfriend.

Driving my red sports car and feeling cool with myself, I sighted this lady under the scourging heat of the sun and decided to give her a lift. As we got talking, I realized she was also heading to Portharcourt city, though she lived and worked there, she had gone to the nearby state to attend a friend's wedding.

We got to Portharcourt and I dropped her off in front of a company and zoomed off happily to my boyfriend's house. We had talked about a few things and I remember telling her my man worked in the same oil company as hers. We even exchanged numbers and looked forward to being friends.

When I got to my boyfriends house, he was waiting for me,  he was home during lunch break just to welcome me. He appeared so happy to see me, I felt so loved. We had a quick one *grin* before he left back to the office.

I might have dosed off or so after the routine house cleaning and fixing early dinner. I was abruptly awakened by the forceful bang opening of the door with attendant raised voices. It was my boyfriend, his cousin and a lady.

The cousin rushed to me to protect me from being hit with a shoe while my supposed boyfriend was holding on to this lady trying to persuade her.  I quickly jumped out of the couch in the midst of the whole confusion, Lo and behold, it was my supposed new friend I had given a ride in my car to Portharcourt...

What Do You See?

What seesth thou?
How do you see yourself?
Take some seconds to think about it.

The way you see yourself matters and goes a long way to shape your life. It is okay not to know it all, it is okay not to be the genius in the block, it is okay not to be drawn to many people.

Listen young woman,  you are created for only one man not all man and when that one man sees you, every other thing is inconsequential.

When you think low of yourself, you act low and become clingy and irritating.
You are full of resource, take time out to discover you. It is so beautiful and refreshing to know that you matter in life scheme of things.

Stop trying so hard to be like the person next to you. You are unique,  all you have to do is discover who you are.

Ask yourself, what do you really enjoy about yourself? Once you can answer that then dwell on that thought for as long as you can and then bask in the euphoria of self love.
 
Lots of Luv
~Oma

What Keeps A Relationship! Sex or sex?

Sex or sex???
There is the art of sex and there is the personality sex.  Which of them do you think keeps and sustains a relationship? I'll tell you.

Sex fades, becomes outdated and never satisfying. But your personality is ever green.

Work on your personality. God the Almighty creator had deposited so much in you, so, you can't afford to be sitting at one corner waiting to be a sex toy for any man.

Invest in your personality, work on your character, filter your words before you say them. Put checks on your character.

Life is beautiful, life is good but it is your personality that will enable the way you choose to see life.
Choose wisely.

~Oma cares.

How Far Can You Go?

How far can you go for the one you love? 

How far can you go just to protect that love?  

How far can you go just stomach all the 'ish' that go through in your relationship? 

I've had quite a number of sacrifices to make in a relationship but at some point I  realise that the loyalty is one sided. But did that make me quit? No! 

Rather it fuelled in me a stronger desire to keep on and at the end of the day, loyalty always win.  

I want to encourage you to go as far as you can in your loyalty to that relationship that you are in right now. 

No matter how heartbreaking it gets,  find the strength within to go the length because at the end of the day, loyalty is all that matters. 

~Oma

My Body can't Take It Anymore!

When you long for his touch and he is not there to touch you,  when your heart yearns for just his smile and he is still not there, when you quake at the thought of him, then you know that your body can't take it anymore.

Tears are not enough, hugging your pillow will only worsen the situation because your heart keeps racing uncontrollably to the thoughts of him.  

When my body can't take it anymore, I cry but there is no one to console me. Why can't he just understand that he is all that my body ever yearn for? Why can't he understand that I'm at that point where my body can't take it anymore? 

Dear sister, you are not alone. 

Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda!

What? Why? Because?
Should I?,  would I?, Could I?
YES!

Go for it. No matter how long you live on earth, it is nothing compared to eternity. So, go for it. Love again, care again, give your heart again.

You have no reason to second guess yourself, go on and take that date,  go on and attend that reunion, go ahead and attend that wedding ceremony, just make sure that you are not second guessing you.

You have been holding yourself back for too long thereby restricting your soul from fully experiencing true fulfilment and happiness.  You have told yourself so many lies that you aren't good enough.

The truth is,  you are a limited edition, you are unique and  you have all it takes to be happy again.

You are not meant for everyone, you are meant for that one person but you have to take your chances in other to meant that special someone.

Yes you should, and yes you can.

Lots of Luv
~Oma

Dirty Mind or Sexy Imagination!

Never allow anyone that doesn't understand the rhythm of your destiny to dictate the move of your life.

It is not humility to allow other people bash you because of your love choice. The slut-shaming is not okay so stop accepting it like it is okay or like you deserve it, no.

No one deserves to be treated or spoken down on because you choose to express your love choice.

What do you call a dirty mind?  It is just a figment of crazy people's imagination.

There is nothing dirty about your mind, your mind is created pure and perfect, it is creative.
Use your imagination and imaginative tendencies in an appealing sense.

You are a woman,  explore your mind.

Fight For It!

Yes! You heard me right, fight for it?
Why should you just let go? Why should you sacrifice your being happy just for another person? Hello??? Stale news.

Gone are the days when you play the miss goody two shoes and holier than thou attitude. Who cares? Do you think anyone gives a hoot about you?  Please wake up.

You too deserve to be happy, you too deserve to live, you too deserve to be treated right. Life is for the living hence, giving up is never an option.

Your partner is waiting to see you fight for what you believe in, just a little something extra. A little nudge from you is all that is required to do the magic.
Stop the pity patter and fight for what you believe in, fight for your love and it will be worth it.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Lots of Luv.
~Oma

What Will It Cost You To Live Happy?

Many times, we worry over things that we ordinary ought to throw away and walk away from. What will it cost you to live happy?

Life is a choice. Life is in phases, we must consciously make a choice to live happy.

A story is told of a lady who was sick, she was so sick in her health that the doctors got worried that her health was detoriating so fast. One of the doctor's decided to carry out an experiment on her.

The Doctor gave her a pen and a paper with a simple question,  "what will it cost you to live happy?" the more the lady thought on the question, the more tears flowed freely from her eyes. Finally she just replied, I just want to be happy.

Guess what,  the thought of living happy was what made her health deteriorate.

Stop thinking it, just live. Live one day at a time concentrating on the things that tickles you fancy. Go all out it because happiness is from within.

Choose to see the good in everything and everyone. Choose to be positive and optimistic, stop thinking of what it will cost you to live happy, just live happy.

Lots of Luv
~Oma

Will You Stand By An Adulterous Partner?

I've been thinking through a whole lot going on in our mainstream lately. So I ask,  will you stand by an adulterous partner?

There's a lot of people especially women alike in particular whose partner's cheat in the relationship.

I met this woman who is in her early 60's. I see her as a mother figure and relate with her as such but there was these part of her that she never talked about. Yesterday she told me a story about her friend, Pamela.

Pamela was a beautiful woman with a good heart. She cared deeply for her husband. Then one evening he comes home with a lady he claims is his colleague and had no place to stay because her landlord had thrown her out.
Pamela being the 'good woman' she is,  didn't question but took the stage lady in. Fast forward to five days later, Pamela returned home from the market to find her husband and his supposed colleague on their matrimonial bed. Later that night,  her husband and the female colleague who is his mistress joined Pamela in bed and in her presence, they had raunchy love making sessions and when they finished, the husband asked her to serve them tea,  which she did,  being 'the good woman', she served them.

Today, Pamela's husband is living with his mistress in another state,  15years and counting. While Pamela is now alone, lonely and a shadow of her once beautiful self all because she wanted to be the "good woman".

So I ask, will you stand by an adulterous partner?

Think deep before you answer.

Lots of Luv.
~Oma

Keep On Keeping On!

Life they say is not a bed of roses, even if it were, roses have thorns.

Life is in phases and men are in sizes. Never compare yourself with anyone no matter what.

Just know that you can't throw in the towel now, you just can't give up no matter the challenge that you are facing currently.

There is always a bright side. Even is there is none, create one for yourself and for others around you or anyone you know who is presently going through challenges.

As I write to you, I also have challenge, there are different issues yet to be sorted out in my life but I chosen not to be deterred.

I told myself this morning that I am tired of crying over issues, I am tired of being dejected because certain things are not working the way I thought they ought to have and then I remind myself of you and all that you go through and are going through.

I want you to quit pitying yourself and crying foul. You just can't give up now. You have to keep on keeping on.

Have you been disappointed? try again. Have your heart been broken? love again. Have you fallen? rise again.

No matter what you go through, no matter how challenging and complicated things may seem, do not give up, keep on keeping on because you are the reason I am here.

Lots of Love,
 ~Oma.

Labour To Be A Blessing!

You never know dryness if your drive is to be a blessing.

Living above your means is the cheapest way to frustrate your destiny.

Labour to be a blessing in your relationship. Be a source of joy, a source of peace of mind,  a source of success and rest.

Your certificate does not guarantee success in your relationship or love life it is your conscious commitment to purpose.

You are too loaded to live a worthless life. Introduce a new dimension of commitment to your relationship,  a commitment to labour to be a blessing to your partner.

Every accomplishment in life is a product of commitment in time. Consciously put in your time to be a blessing in your relationship that when you speak,  life comes out.

You are woman of virtue don't watch your life loose value.
As you make contribution of being a blessing to your partner and lover,  you shall eat the good fruit.

I celebrate you.
Lots of luv.
~Oma

Over And Over Again!

For how long will you continue to hurt him over and over again?

For how long will your partner shed secret tears in frustration over and over again because of the pain you cause.

Love is beautiful, love is kind,  love is divine but over and over again you have defiled love.

The choices we make at every stage of life goes a long way to shape us. The seed you sow today will germinate tomorrow and bear fruit. What type of fruit will yours bear?

Make a conscious effort to be a source of joy, inspiration, and a blessing to your relationship over and over again.

Let your partner look at you and find inner joy. Let your partner steal a glance at you just to be sure that you are real because of the way you have been a blessing over and over again.

I celebrate you.

Lots of Luv,
~Oma

One Thing Is Needful!

"But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part,  which shall not be taken away from her." ~Luke 10:42 [KJV].

"There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it and it will not be taken away from her. " [NLT]

The first translation say ...But one thing is needful. . ., the second says . . . There is only one thing worth being concerned about. . .

 What is that one thing that is needful for you right now? What is that one thing that is worth your being concerned about?

It is time to set your priorities right before it's too late.

That relationship that you are in,  is it needful? Is it worth your being concerned about? Check yourself before you wreck yourself.

Lots of Luv.
~Oma😍