How Do You Handle The Pain Of A Cheating Partner?

Infidelity takes a toll on even the most healthy relationship.

It is natural to want to know why your partner cheated on you but really there isn't any reason.

You begin to question yourself and think that you have failed or not good enough. It is always worst if your cheating partner gives you no explanation or tell you the reason why? because truly, there isn't really a 'why?'.

Cheating is not okay, it is the most disrespectful thing that could ever happen, it is hurtful, you will feel like your whole world has come to an end. The pain of a cheating partner is the worst form of betrayal of trust, there's no doubt about that but guess what? your partner is a dumb ass.

Questioning your sanity, becoming ill, having sleep deprivation, heart ache, devastation, numbness, loss of appetite or sometimes over eating may all become your current reality and all because you watched the partner that you have loved so much and shared deep secrets and moments with just in a blink of an eye treat you like you were nothing. Because all the while you have thought that this is 'the one'.

When you are in love, you can't see anything. So, The most disappointing will be the faith that you hang onto believing that your partner will step up and be responsible but rather, he shows his true colour and treat you like filth.

1. It is okay to cry.
Cry out the pain, lock yourself in a room alone and cry out your hurt. You can also go to an open space, maybe a beach and just cry. It is therapeutic.

2. Face your reality.
The reality at the moment is that your partner has someone else, MOVE ON.
It maybe hard at first, it is always hard starting over or moving on especially when you have thought 'this is the one'. Nevertheless, you've got to face your reality and move on.

3. Understand that whatever roller coaster feeling that you have right now is normal. Infact, it is a proof that you are normal and all your vitals are functioning properly.
You may feel hurt, shamed, embarrassed, humiliated, downtrodden, guilt, hate, love or whatever, just know that last, last, you will be okay.

4. Keep reminding yourself daily that you will be okay.

Finally, know that there is no manual for handling pain or hurt. Find out what works for you. It maybe talking to someone about it, or staying all by yourself. Whatever it is, stick with what works for you.

Best wishes.
~Oma

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You can write back to me and share your experience, it helps also.
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